Success requires ego and force of will–otherwise, any sane person can come up with plenty of reasons to give up. To you, it may seem like arrogance, but you can’t underestimate the beatings one must endure to step outside the path of ordinary in search of extraordinary.
In my work with high-functioning leaders, I’ve discovered two truths:
- Ego is absolute, not relative. If they’ve arrived at what they think of as “success,” they have the same ego.
- Success is relative, not absolute. No matter what they accomplish, there’s an objectively greater combination of money, power, and notoriety one can achieve and that someone else probably already has.
Let me tell you the good news first: No one truly has any competition other than themselves. Rise to your own standards. You don’t have to chase anyone’s vision but your own.
That said, absolute ego and relative success can create a blind spot for those who desire to rise to the next challenge. Once you achieve a goal, the smart and the not-so-smart things you did in getting there average out. If you reverse-engineer your roadmap to success, it won’t always be obvious what was an essential step and what was an unnecessary detour
Did you make three moderately smart choices, or two really smart choices and one stupid one? It’s often hard to tell if you could’ve been even more successful or achieved a goal more quickly. (This is why I don’t agree with the advice to only take advice from someone who’s succeeded at what you wish to accomplish. Successful people dole out bad advice all the time, because they don’t recognize what actually hindered them.)
The most important thing to recognize is that what you did only got you to where you are. So, raising the bar for yourself will require you to shift gears.
This is why I’m an evangelist for the smarketing approach for growth-stage businesses. Things like grit, passion, good products, a tight-knit team–they can all be part of a successful startup. But once you’re in a space where your competitors have similar qualities, you must differentiate even more and identify the things which have been creating drag on your business’s potential.
As a fractional, I’m a smarketing expert, at scale to your stage of growth. I also provide an objective viewpoint, even a bit of sandpaper, removed from company politics. I specialize in challenging convention and finding blind-spots. Don’t be a victim of your own success–let’s talk!







